Teen dating violence doesn’t always leave bruises.
It can be silent, invisible and happening right on your teen’s phone.
As technology becomes intertwined with relationships, digital abuse is on the rise, and many parents don’t even realize it’s happening.
What is digital dating abuse?
Digital abuse occurs when a partner uses technology to harass, control or manipulate their significant other.
Common forms include:
• Constantly checking a teen’s location through apps (Snapchat or Live360).
• Demanding passwords for social media or phone.
• Monitoring texts and social media interactions.
• Sending threats or humiliating messages.
• Pressuring for inappropriate photos (sexting).
Many teens may not recognize these behaviors as abusive, dismissing them as “love” or “caring too much.” But, these tactics can escalate into deeper emotional abuse and control.
How parents can protect their teens
• Stay involved in their digital world: Without invading their privacy, have conversations about healthy online boundaries and safety.
• Teach digital consent: Let your teen know that no one has the right to demand their passwords or track their phone.
• Encourage open communication: Ask about their online interactions without judgment so they feel safe sharing concerns.
• Set social media rules together: Help them navigate digital relationships wisely by discussing privacy settings, blocking/reporting options and red flags.
With technology shaping modern relationships, education and awareness are key. This Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month, let’s equip our teens with the tools to protect themselves, both in real life and online.
Rise Above Violence is a nonprofit that serves victims of domestic violence and sexual assault in Pagosa Springs.
Rise provides 24/7 crisis support, advocacy and long-term resources for victims and survivors. Through prevention education and community outreach, Rise works to end violence before it starts.
Call our 24/7 hotline at (970) 264-9075 to reach a trained advocate. Parents and teens can call the hotline at any time.
