A reader asked me, “Do you think David will ever find love?”
She talked as though he was a character out of a book or an afternoon soap opera.
Then, she said sadly, “Maybe he doesn’t know how to make a commitment.”
I quickly replied, “It’s not a lack of supply, or not knowing where the women are. He made a commitment once and she started messing around.
He says women bore him, the women in Albuquerque are bored and don’t know what they are looking for.”
“Now this would make a great article,” I said as I laughed. “Well, he is looking for love in all the wrong places. That twenty-two, size 2, double Ds didn’t hold his attention. Imagine that!”
I think it’s this way: I used to love carrot cake, I’ve made hundreds of them and people say they are the best. After making so many, a carrot cake doesn’t hold my attention.
I think David has had one too many pieces of carrot cake.
I called David to get some scoop on this yummy story.
“People are wondering why you can’t find love. Do you think you will ever find someone to love?”
This is the reasoning in the mind of a man who has had it all: money, fame, good looks, airplanes, elegant homes, exotic vacations, a yacht and plenty of gorgeous women. His and other men’s women, that is.
“I don’t know,” he said, “I have resolved I probably never will. Women bore me.”
He switched conversations. “I am busy with this new restaurant.”
“How is it doing?”
“Great, I called my friend who knew Holly Holmes, the boxer. Holly and my friend came to the restaurant for an hour and stayed three. This restaurant is busy every night. If a person wants great pizza, pasta and good wine, this is the place to be. People like sitting at the bar.”
He continued. “We are already making plans to open another restaurant. Once we get it up and going, I want to buy another airplane. This is my new passion. Once I get a plane, I want to fly down to Houston or someplace like that. The women are different there.”
“Different? How’s that?”
He couldn’t answer my question, but went on. “I like this friend who has a casino in Pedro Island. She is a business woman. She tells me she loves me.”
“I thought she was married?”
“She is, but she has been trying to get a divorce.”
“Well, you know, if she cheats on her husband, she will cheat on you.”
“Yes, and she has cheated on her husband.”
Then he switches women. “I got my hair cut today. This girl who cuts my hair is cuter than hell. She gave me a present. She likes sweet wine and I remembered the brand.”
Laughingly, I broke into his chain of thought, “Oh, she likes Mogan David?”
“Nooooo, I bought some really good wine and invited her to the restaurant. I am the PR person for the restaurant; I get the people in there. I probably invite a couple of new girls every night. The girl from the tanning salon came last night.”
This is one of those empty articles I swore I would never write, and here I’m writing it. I am sure a therapist would love to get David on her couch and delve into his mind. He is a great conversationalist, very interesting, honest in the way he sees life, doesn’t mind spending money, very generous, a great sport, still handsome and fit, a great brother-in-law and he remembers women’s preferences in wine. Now, that’s not a bad guy. He’s had it all ... except love.
My daughter, Allison, says, “He is a rogue. He wants the challenge. When it comes easy or cheap, the value goes down. When will the girls learn?”
This is a different article for another time.
So, will David ever find love? Maybe he will, and maybe he won’t. And maybe he already has and didn’t recognize it. Love comes differently, and in ways we do not expect.
The worth of a good woman is far above rubies. A man who has a good wife and recognizes it, he is a blessed man.
“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, confusion into clarity. It turns problems into gifts, failures into success, the unexpected into perfect timing, and mistakes into important events. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow.” — Melodie Beattie.
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